Okay, I'm going to go out in a direction that may make some people uncomfortable. And if you know the people in my story, I'm sorry that you're dealing with this grief. But I think it needs to be said.
Earlier this week, a 17-year-old girl was killed, and her 17- and 18-year-old friends were airlifted to hospital in critical condition, when they were involved in a single-vehicle crash in the Toronto area.
The girl who was killed, and one of those critically injured, were ejected from the van because they weren't wearing seatbelts.
The three attended a Catholic school, and so in addition to offering grief counsellors for other students, the school held a meeting to pray for the three.
And I say, all that is fine. But after the prayers were done, there should have been a police officer brought up in front of all the students to say, "This is what can happen when you get into a vehicle and you don't wear your seatbelt. This is why it's the law, and this is why we tell you, over and over, to buckle up. No one should have died in this crash. Wear your seatbelt, so you don't end up dead as your classmate did."
Tough love? Oh, yeah. But sometimes, that's what people need. No one expects they'll ever crash, or be ejected from a vehicle. But when there's an empty desk in your class, when you realize your friend isn't coming back, that it happened to someone you know - then the message has a chance of getting through.
When incidents like this happen, we should use them to educate that person's peers. We often do things that may initially be unpopular, or even seem heartless, but we temper them with, "but if it saves one life, it's worth it." This tragedy, had it been used to educate, could have done exactly that.